Friday, January 18, 2013

Read: Update on Amber

Hello everyone,

I have not been around for a while but I would like to give everyone who cares an update on Amber.  If you do not care then the "X" is at the top right of your screen.

I have been keeping up with my sister on Jpay, which allows us to talk to each other through email regularly.  She has had a lot of negative press in the past, which portrayed her as a very hateful individual.  And she was for a while.  She did not know how to control her anger or even shut up when she needed to.  But now I am happy to say that I absolutely believe that it is all behind her now.  

After Amber was sent to prison she had a lot to think about and a lot to change about herself.  She had to first realize what was important to her, which was her health and most importantly, Leah.  I put them in that order because if she were to remain unhealthy then Leah's importance would be non-existent.  In one of our first letters to each other, Amber wrote and said, "I just hope you guys understand that I chose prison to help me, and pretty much save me from myself."  She told me that she cried often because she misses her family, and her Booboo, which is what she calls Leah.  Amber felt like she had no other option but to go to prison because she did not have the strength to survive on her own and to stay clean.  Many may question that and say, "Well, how can you just leave your daughter?"  Apparently those individuals have never been addicted to drugs, and do not know what impact they may have on your life.  In 2007 over 23 million individuals needed treatment for drug abuse.  Of them, over 20 million did not receive any treatment.  Amber's age group (18-25) makes up nearly 20% of the individuals who need treatment for drugs.  In addition, the form of drugs that Amber used kills 20,000 Americans each year.  So it is a no-brainer why Amber agreed to be incarcerated.

In prison Amber has access to resources that were not effective on the "outside."  One of the first things Amber did when she arrived at prison was get into the CLIFF program, which is a drug rehabilitation program.  It is a program that has multiple stages, and Amber is now in the third and final stage.  She has also been asked to seek employment and lead the CLIFF program because of her outstanding progress.  Amber also completed an anger management program.  That is the one difference that I see in her most.  She does not get nearly as angry as she used to.  In addition, she nearly never curses, and when she does it is not that vulgar.  In a letter Amber sent she said, "I make sure I laugh or smile everyday here.  I feel emotions, happiness, anger, and sadness but that is still better than before when all I felt was high."  These programs have helped her immensely and changed her thought process, which is something she told me needed to be changed.  

Another program that Amber is excited about is the GED program.  She is fully aware that to get far in life you have to have an education.  She told me that as soon as she is done with the CLIFF program she will be able to take the GED exam.  In addition, she has learned a lot about work ethic while in prison, which is something you do not really need when filming, and what Amber lacked as far as what could be seen on the show.  Amber holds a job in the facility and is currently a supervisor.  She told me that she supervises a few other girls, and that they work very well together.  "Right now I'm just thinking about a career and what I am going to do while I am in here and when I get out", Amber said.  She is focused on her goal, which is to better herself and be a role model to Leah.

Amber tells me that she calls Leah every night, and that she loves hearing her voice.  Every chance I get, I send Amber pictures of Leah that I have taken or ones that are on Gary's Twitter page.  She loves getting them, tells me often that they make her cry.  Amber told me that her inspirations to better herself are Leah and our father, who at one point only had six months to live.  That was 9 years ago and since then he has battled liver disease and cancer.  Still in his weakened state he is fighting, and fighting to get a new liver.  Amber knows that she has a lot to live for and I feel comfortable saying that Amber will have a better life after all of this is done.  By completing the CLIFF program, getting her GED, and being good, Amber can be out of prison and well on her way to a new life in a few months.  

Some of you may not like Amber.  Some may post hateful messages on here.  But know that Amber is a human, and as humans we all make mistakes.  She is paying for her mistakes right now, and that is not by being in jail but being away from those she loves the most.  She has taken the steps to better herself, which is more than what many would do.  It is not often that you hear about someone who has their whole life ahead of them agree to do something like what Amber did, which is agree to a prison term.  If you are religious then say a pray for her.  If you are hateful then say a prayer for yourself.  But keep in mind that all of the negative things that you say will eventually come back to you.  The world is full of hate, which is why it can be so dysfunctional.  Think!

Shawn Portwood

66 comments:

  1. SO happy that you wrote this! I've been hoping to see more good news, and I'm so glad that she is doing well. I know she can do it!

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  2. Glad she seems to be doing better!

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  3. Glad shes getting the help she needs. I pray she comes out a better person and mother. You have to start with yourself first and it seems like shes doing that. Although she made her choices it seems she had a rough start. She is young enough she can put her mistakes in the past and move forward. Im rooting for you Amber !

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  4. Good job Amber! God bless you. Love and prayers from Venezuela

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  5. I glad to here she is doing well. I know if she continue to attend 12 step meetings she will do well. I have been sober 22 years. I f I can do it she can too. Good luck to you and your family. God br with you all

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  6. Glad she is doing great more power to her an glad she choose prison to get her the help she needs i just hope that garyvmakes some choices to change to cause in my honnest opioin he didbalot to set amber off an used leah against her cause she didnt want to be with him an he was a coward using their daughter to hurt her he is not innocent in this matter either but i am happy for amber

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  7. I love the update on Amber and hope to read many more. I can relate with her and wish her the best.

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  8. I am so glad to hear she is doing so well. Even with everything she is still my favorite. I hope to keep hearing good updates like this. I can't relate to her with the drug thing but I know I have an anger problem and she is great for trying to over come the obstacles in her way.

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  9. Glad to see that she is finally receiving and allowing the help to WORK in her life...I'm SO HAPPY for her and you're right she does need to put herself first if she is ever to be a good Mom to Leah. Please tell her she has a lot of support out here and we are praying for her as well as the rest of her family. :c)

    Good luck to you too Shawn in becoming a Police Officer. I'm sure this helps Amber as well seeing and knowing that you are there for her and all the love she has in her life.

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  10. I was actually talking to my boyfriend about Ambers story about a month ago & was wondering any new news. Glad I came across this blog. My boyfriend was addicted to opiates and just 2 weeks ago he went into detox & rehab to get help. He is now sober and doing great. People have to do what they think is best to better their lives. So glad that Amber is getting better for herself and baby Leah. Would love to keep hearing from you and getting updates about Amber. Hope your family is doing good and staying strong!

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  11. I was not a fan of amber at all...... now with that being said i have a great respect for her for doing what she did! im proud to say that i support her. not only her but leah gary shawn all parties involved because you all are missing her as much as she is missing you. i used to compare Amber to Jenelle. I now see that is wrong. Amber im proud of you keep up your good work and yes you will be home with your loved ones and they are going to love the new clean sober you even more! rock it out lady! sending prayers for you!

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  12. So great to hear she's doing so well! I hope she's able to stay on the path that she wants to be on and be the person she wants to be. Although editing on the show skewed the truth quite a bit it was always clear that Amber carried a lot of pain and needed help and it was also clear how much she loves her baby girl. I wish nothing good things for her, Leah, and the rest of your family. She deserves a new beginning and hopefully this is the start of an amazing new chapter.

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  13. So happy to hear this! It sounds like she's on a wonderful path now and I have so much faith in her. Seeing her, Leah and all of you guys lots of love and support! Xoxo

    Steph

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  14. soooo happy for her! this made my day! Keep up the good work Amber! and thanks for the update Shawn!

    -Shelly S

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  15. So very happy to hear how well she is doing! It takes an amazing, & strong person to admit you need help. Being a mom I can't imagine what she is going through being without Leah but its the best thing for both. Also being on my 13th year of sobriety I know how very hard it is. Thankfully I had been clean 9 years before my daughter was born. Tell Amber she should be very proud & that I'm praying she will continue down the path she is on. We all know she can do it & can't wait for the day she is home with beautiful Leah!

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  16. Thank you all for your positive feedback. I will be emailing Amber tomorrow and I will send her some of your comments. Any support is helpful to her and she has told me that on numerous occasions. She loves getting fan mail but obviously she loves getting mail from her family the most.

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  17. I'm so glad she is doing better. I think why she was getting such bad negativity was because she was in the public's eye. There are so many young moms out there that are going through what she went through or close to it. They just don't get all the negativity because they can hide it better since they weren't followed by cameras. Amber has probably help so many young moms out there dealing with anger and addiction. I was a young mom and still am. I had my daughter when I was 18. I never did drugs but I am bipolar so I had my problems with anger and my boyfriend at the time was very abusive and controlling. It is very hard to be young, in a relationship, and have a baby. Sadly, My ex and I had to learn the hard way to grow up because our daughter passed away when she was 12 days old due to SIDS. After losing her, I hit a low point and had to go through a bad depression and hospitalization to cope. It's been 3 1/2 years since my daughter has been gone and I am totally different. Got my GED and worked hard and been in college for almost 3 years. I think after amber having to learn the hardest way for her she will do great in life. She is a bright and intelligent woman. I look forward to one day knowing she is going to get her freedom back and be joined back with Leah, and her being healthy. Thank you for updating us. She needs all the support and the people that don't want to give it need to just keep their mouth closed.

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  18. I am sorry about your daughter Brooke. We had a sister that passed away of SIDS when she was six days old. I can relate in a way but never to that extent.

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  19. I felt so bad when people attacked her house or car, people is so evil sometimes! and they have no idea what she spend, i had problems in my life with my parents too, and is so hard forgive and have feelings too! You become a rock! Thats what happened to me and maybe something similar happened to her too. I hope (know) she get better soon! she's a strong woman i bet!!! thank you for keeping us informed, send her kisses and many love!! We all love her!!!

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  20. Amber is my biggest fan I love her all around you can see she struggled you can see loved gary and mostly the bound between Leah and her is great I had a husband in prison for drug addiction also every week we would take the boys to see him in prison support and love helped him and so we all need to pull into together to support her as someone made a comment at the beginning the only reason why people judge her is because it was in the public's eye not once did someone say I am sorry amber that ur going through what ur going through I doubt the public know the facts about addictions nobody chooses to be an addict nobody chooses to live a certain way that is unhealthy with that send amber the best of luck from my family to hers I support her

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  21. Thanks for the update. I have always loved Amber, and know we all go through struggles. As a recovering addict, and mother I also chose to go to prison. as nothing else helped me to sober up. treatment didn't help. yea being locked up and away from my kids sucked especially since my youngest was 2months when I left, but it helped my addiction and my anger/explosive personality. I'm proud of Amber for seeing this opportunity to help her, and when she gets out she will be a stronger and better person for it

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  22. I am soo happy to see she is doing really good, I was a young mom when i had my daughter so i no what she felt like with all the struggles and losing friends and feeling like you have no one or anything, Ppl with no kids or ppl that dint have kids at a young age thinks its so easy when its not, When i watched the show with Amber i felt like i connected with her the most as i was and still kinda the same as her just not the drugs but iv been going to counseling and that and its helping a lot i think most ppl that have a easy life or think they have a easy life should just keep what they have to say to them self as they dont no what ppl feel or think its really hard to change on your own and when your young you dont there is a lot you can do so you just for get it and keep living the way you are tell some thing really bad happens, But all i have to say is i am soo happy to hear she is doing good and bettering her self for her and then her daughter as she needs to be fine and good so she can show Leah how to grow up to respect her self and other

    GOOD JOB AMBER :) XO

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  23. Please tell Amber that i am a fan of hers...And glad that she realized she needed help and found a way to get it!!!My prayers are with her daily....Please tell her i pray that she has the strength to get through this and also pray that she has the strength to get through what she needs to get through when she gets home..Because she does not need to lose Leah like my friend lost her son...R.I.P Kenton Brown!!!!

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  24. I have to admit that I was not Amber's biggest fan while she was on the show. She was a hard person to like and I'm sure, now that she's sober and doing better, she realizes that as well. However, having been through some personal issues myself, I know how hard it is to own up to and face your problems head on. We live in denial and think that everyone else is the problem. I admire Amber for taking the steps necessary to become a better person and a better mother to Leah; no matter how difficult those steps may be. I know it has to be hard to be away from the people she loves, but you can't be what others need you to be until you love and take care of yourself. I wish Amber much luck in the future and I hope that she prospers back in the real world. Much love and thanks for the update!

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  25. Shawn,

    I have always been skeptical of reality tv shows and the way MTV portrays people. I know you said Amber was a hateful individual for a while, but I think all of us experience, as human beings, the feeling of hatred at one point in our lives. And everyone just deals with it differently. I have been praying for Amber for such a long time. I have stuck with her story since the beginning (well, since MTV aired her story), and I have never once labeled her as a "bad" person. In fact, I have never labeled her! She is human, and I can't tell you how happy I am for her and you and the rest of the family. Sometimes we get thrown curve balls in life, but God somehow shows us the way and gives us options that we may not want to choose, and we do... and those are what lead us to a greater beyond. I hope Amber is enjoying her job and gets released soon. I bet little Leah misses her so much, as well as Gary. I am praying nonstop for her as well as the whole family. Love and prayers from a Missouri girl! <3 Sarah

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  26. Shawn,

    Thanks for the update on Amber. I'm glad she's doing so well! Please tell her that I never once considered her to be a bad person, or a bad mom. She just seemed like a young woman who had gone through some rough patches growing up, and had never really dealt with those issues and feelings. That happens to a lot of us! Add to that a baby at a young age and a rocky relationship, and it's a lot for anyone to handle. Too much, too fast, you know? To me, she just always seemed overwhelmed, which is very understandable. It's obvious that she loves Leah very much and wants the best for her. I hope with all of my heart that Amber keeps up the good work after she is released, and doesn't start to slip without the structure and support that she probably has now in jail. I honestly believe that if she sticks with it and continues to work hard, she can have a great life with her beautiful little girl!!

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  27. great job amber ur doin awsome. luv u.

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  28. I'm so proud of both of you as well as your dad and am just about to adopt this blog!

    If there must be prisons, this is what prison should be about: helping people to turn their lives around instead of warehousing them and enslaving them to wearing a kind of scarlet letter for life!

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  29. So glad you wrote this,and so HAPPY Amber is doing well. Its hard for a lot of people to understand drug abuse if it never affects them. My brother has battled for years. Been to rehab countless times,and still uses. I just keep waiting for *that* call. He sees several Dr's to get *what he wants* from Lortab,Percocet,Oxycodone,Methadone,and a new drug Suboxtone (sp). Plus he smokes weed. He's 42 and has been addicted for yrs. So for me,its hard to understand if you haven't seen a loved one strung out and dealt with this. Amber story was one I always followed. I knew when she was high...... I've seen it most of my life. I always hoped she'd get help NOW rather than later. Now means she will have a life with Leah-later may of meant that Leah wouldn't have a mom. So I'm glad at how well she's doing. Thanks for the update. BTW..... I have an address for her that Gary posted..... Is it still the same? What items can and can not be sent to her? I'd love to send her a *care package*

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  30. I think what you have written was beautifully said. It is good to hear of a success story and that Amber is doing so well and taking full advantage of all the programs that are at her disposal. I commend her for the decisions that she is making and wish her the best of luck. I will continue to pray for her and others that are in similar situations.

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  31. I am so happy for Amber that she is getting her life together.I hope Amber keeps it up after she gets out can us fans mail her a letter ? plz let me know we all love Amber :)

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  32. It's great to hear Amber is getting the help she needs and turning her life around,even if in prison. I will pray that she will be able to continue on the right path and she learns from her past mistakes. God bless her, Leah, Gary and you for helping her through!

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  33. I am glad to hear Amber is doing so much better. She is doing the right thing to make herself better!!! She is on a great path. Keep it Amber. Leah will be happy you were able to seek this help early on in life and finish it out. :) I am sure you are a great person and friend. (would love to write you).

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  34. I am so proud of amber she deserves the very best for everything she has been thru i honestly think she did the right choice by going to prison becuase she wanted to better herself and i can honestly say not alot of girls have the guts to leave there families and do that! But amber did she didnt deserve everything that has happened to her but when she comes out and sees her booboo she will know it was all worth it. Amber your family loves you everyone loves you and i will keep you in my prayers! You are a better person now and if some people still see you as bad there just negative people who have no life and want to bring everyone else down i respect you for what you did and in my eyes your a role model for me and alot of people. I may have not been what you been thru but i know booboo will understand when shes bigger and be so proud of you. Love ya! And keep going becuase you have all of our support 100% :) God bless you and your family.
    -Rosie

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  35. I too went to prison because of drugs, i had a choice, program on the outs or prison program. prison program best thing i ever did, got my family back, my life back and my kids love me for it. Keep up the good work. If you do it right Leah will look up to you for doing it!!!!

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  36. When all of this happened over the media you have bits and pieces being shown to you. As a graduate student in psychology, and a person who has been a victim of parents whom abused drugs over and over again I necessarily didn't feel sorry for Amber but wanted to reach out and help her. I understood her, I felt compassion and wanted to help her. There are so many people out there who need help and never get it. I am so happy to have randomly come across this while reading something else today, please let Amber know that there are people who are out there supporting her and wanting her to succeed! If she would ever want a pen pal please feel free to let me know at mrs.laurageddes@gmail.com. I wish her nothing but the best, this is exciting and amazing!

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  37. I didn't really like Amber on Teen Mom. Probably because she is like me! I didn't realize that before but I am now getting help! I too have an anger problem. I suffer from depression and ptsd. I am married with three children and one one the way. I'm glad Amber is doing well and I look forward to more updates! I finally understand her now that I'm not in denial! Way to go Amber!

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  38. Glad she's doing good. I always rooted for her to get straight.

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  39. Very well said!!! And I praise you & your Family for doing the right thing by standing by her & supporting her!!! I'll definitely keep your Father in my prayers as well. As hard as it is to be in the public eye, Amber needs to remember to just take care of herself first & foremost then her beautiful baby girl Leah!!! I give her props for getting the help she wanted/needed this way vs being on the outside & continuing down the path she knew she would!!! As women, we need to raise eachother up & support one another as we're Sister's, not enemies. We all make mistakes as this is part of life. GOD Bless you for being a wonderful brother & friend & ((( HUGS ))) & prayers to Amber & Leah & Gary & the rest of the Family.....

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  40. There were times I liked Amber on Teen Mom and times I was like someone smack her please! But learning more about why she was like she was at times definitely helped lessen the someone smack her feelings. I'm glad she's getting the help she needs to be the person she can be! I couldn't imagine leaving my little man for 5 years! That was amazingly strong. Keep it up Amber and keep it up big bro! :D Prayers going out for the whole family but especially Amber!

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  41. Shawn u're great cuz u always be here for her, and saying to the really fans the true things, I truth in all that u say. I'm crying but of hapiness cuz I'm really happy for Amber, I'm clinical pshicology and all the time I saw teen mom, I cry of sadness cuz I saw that she really need help! All the bad people.. the karma will make paid, the only important now is Amber cuz that u say if she's not ok she can't make nothing for Leah. If u can, say here that in Southamerica (Ecuador) had his biggest fan, I love her and I'm so proud of her.

    Hugs for all family.

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  42. I am so happy that she is doing well. I can totally relate to her in was in a bad path once I was hooked in method and theonly thing that helped me get clean was jail. I tried rehab it didn't work so I wound up in trouble and got thrown in jail for a while. And I can say it changed my life. I have been clean and solver now for 3 years. Amber is wish youbthe best keep you up and be proud of yourself for what you are accomplishing in there. To some it may seem like a small step but to people like us its just the first step of many to come. I am proud to you keep up the good work. I am praying for you :-)

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  43. I am so happy to hear she is doing better...and nobody is perfect so dont judge nobody is perfect!!!:)wish u the best Amber!!!

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  44. Im glad Amber is doing well. Thats all we can hope for that once she is released she stays on the good path. I have an addict in my life and I sometimes wish he would go to jail.prison to get away from the drugs cause where we live there isnt any help unless 1. you are on Medicaid which he doesnt qualify for or 2. you have your own insurance and pay a shit load out of pocket. There needs to be easy access to help instead of easy access to drugs. Good luck Amber!

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  45. Ive been in her shoes and had to go to prison to save myself from myself. All her haters just dont understand what drugs do to people. Eveyone is young and makes mistakes. ...its the ones who bounce back that are truly strong. To walk away from that lifestyle is one of the hardest things ive ever done but I did it and now I have a great family and career. But it wasnt easy nor fun but I did it anf I know amber can too. Keep ur head up ma. I know youll find your way. Ily

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  46. I hope Amber knows that there are people who wish to see her succeed and that people who are so quick to judge and belittle her have bigger problems than she does. I wish her all the success in the world and hope she will be reunited with her family soon.

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  47. The GED is a collection of five separate tests. These components cover high school level Reading, Writing, Social Studies, Math, and Science. The ACE Testing Service administers the test and provides support to examinees in the form of tips and practice GED exams. They also man an online Q&A portal where they provide responses to frequently asked questions.
    ged practice test print out

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  48. is there anyway to sent Amber a message? Or a letter or anything? I want to let her know that people from the Netherlands wish her all the best. She may not have made the right choices but she's working on it. And she deserves every chance! I hope life will be better from now on and she and Gary can be great parents to Leah. What we saw on MTV was just a little piece of their life and no ons should judge based on that alone. Please tell Amber that people think of her and we all want her to succeed. Best of luck!

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  49. I was not a big fan of Amber when Lea was smaller. However, last season I saw how much she tried to change for herself and for Leah. What she had to go through when she got back from rehab I really felt bad for her. As a mom I could not stand to see how hurt she was when Gary would use Leah against her when she did not say or do the things he wanted her to. I saw her starting to unravel with each missed visit or argument and really felt bad for her. You could see how much she loves her daughter and to have to be apart from her had to be hell. I lost my brother at 27 to drug addiction and I know that to stay clean in an environment like she had is most times just not possible. I give her a lot of credit making the decision she did I do not know if I could and truly hope that she gets all the help she needs and takes every opportunity given to her. Good luck Amber.

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  50. I'm very happy for her. It's just great that she's getting the help she needs and deserves. I know all too well about depression and anger management issues. I have taken many different antidepressants and right now have to take a double dose of Effexor everyday just to feel semi decent and get through the day. I'm only 16 years old and it sucks but I know that it makes me a stronger person or will in the long run. I'm definitely not saying I know exactly what she's going through but I am saying that I can relate on that level at least. I look up to her and she inspires me because I've seen how much she's grown as a person and how hard she's trying to better herself for her and her daughter. Not once have I ever thought that she was a bad person or a bad mom. Everyone makes bad choices at some point. She definitely deserves to be cut some slack. I love you Amber! Just keep your head held high and always have hope! I'm rooting for ya girl! xoxo

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  51. I also not a huge Amber fan, or at least what I saw and read about her in the Media. I have always been pulling for her though. I am so happy to here about this. I know alot of people didn't understand the decision to go to prison, but I for one think it's the best decision she has made in quite along time. I'm sending my heartfelt love to Amber. She deserves respect for all shes done to make her and Leah's life a better one.

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  52. im happy to hear that she is doing better, i know it must be hard being away from her baby girl, she is so strong, i couldnt be away from my baby girl for 5 years. when does she get out of prison?

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  53. Im very happy for Amber that she is doing so much better.I have had many friends and family stuggle with drugs and alcohol and some die because of it.You have both been threw so much in life and I can relate because life moves fast, is unfair and crazy but can be better one day with help and perseverance.Take care Im praying for Amber,Leah and all your family!!God Bless

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  54. I must admit, I was never a fan of Amber's... until I realized just how difficult her struggle was. I'm surrounded by addiction and fully understand just how hard her choices must have been. I commend her for deciding to choose herself first - FINALLY! - and take giant leaps to recovery. Lots of love and positive vibes to her. She can and will continue to do it. I root for her. :-)

    Big hugs to you too, big brother! Being a sibling of an addict myself, it takes a toll on us. You're doing an amazing job. Thank you for sharing Amber's story, and thank you for supporting her as you have. Just remember to take some time off for you and your family, ok? ;-)

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  55. Im glad that she's getting help and doing so much better. It pssed me OFF the way ppl have been treating Amber. We All have to remember That she is a still a young girl and NOT some 30 something that supposed to have their life together. Before yall judge her for what was shown on A TV show. I wish her all the best. Keep ya head up and stay strong

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  56. So happy for Amber. But Gary and Amber are stuck in a cycle of violence. Neither of them will heal until they move on separately and keep their relationship to a co parenting one. Amber also needs to take responsibility for her violent behaviour (i.e stop blaming Gary). This will take years to resolve properly but it sounds like she's on the right track.

    Her hardest test will be when she re enters society. In a way, she has actually taken the easy way out, but I respect her decision to do what she needed to do. Addiction is a disease. Add in a personality disorder and other MH issues and IMO think a secure environment was really the only way she was going to move forward. That's not a slight against Amber more an honest assessment from what I know of her situation.

    Well done for also receiving support so you are able to support Amber healthily to get through this. Family bonds and support are so important to a recovering individual. Unfortunately addiction and family violence decimates families and as such the family unit isn't able to support the addicted person or perpetrator through this journey because the family / family member needs to protect their own health and well being. As Amber is one of the lucky ones with family support despite her abhorrent behaviours, this will only help Amber to have a better chance of changing and becoming well and in sober recovery. However Amber will only ever recover without Gary, not with. Not because Gary is bad, but because she will always abuse Gary and Gary will always act like a co-dependent controller or a powerless controller.

    Good luck Amber, you're going to need it, but if you truly self reflect and make change (and stop blaming everyone else for having to make change and the things you have to do to do it) then you should be okay. But you're in for years and years and years, a life time ahead of you, of hard work

    Love and good luck VB

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    1. I work with people who have abused in relationships and have MH and addiction issues. If I sound tough it's because I've seen a million Ambers, male and female. Change is possible but only with honestly and commitment. :)

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  57. I support Amber's journey 110%. I wish her the best. Unfortunately, the person who never grows up is Gary. He is a HORRIBLE influence on Amber, he knows exactly how to push her buttons (he won't stop until he's pushed her to breaking point) which is totally unacceptable. He uses Leah against her, and is just completely immature. I fear when she gets out of prison he will continue to undermine her and he will continue to have power issues. He needs to control her, and it's NOT healthy. The problem is GARY.

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  58. Shawn.. I was wondering if I could get your help with an awareness article I want to write, publish, and get widespread.

    First, I have to admit that I watch the MTV shows, but with a 4 year old at home my son loves watching the babies... he adores Booboo and Aubree!

    Then I switched over to VH1 one day and saw Dr. Drew's Celebrity Rehab and something clicked.. Shouldn't he have acted in the beginning when Amber first started exhibiting the behaviors of a drug influenced individual. I personally think that Dr. Drew Pinsky's license to practice medicine should be revoked. I also think MTV should fire him on the stop for his negligence. His oath is to "do no harm" but there are many people on 16&Pregnant and Teen Mom who have had drug and alcohol issues that could have been addressed more seriously had he been acting more as a medical professional instead of a celebrity tv host. He should have stepped in with Amber, Jenelle, Kim and Butch, Matt McCann, and Farrah. There is just too much neglect to the girls in the name of "putting on a show".. If you want to talk to me more about this (and I hope you do - I really want to make a difference and I could use your help).. my twitter is @NiteRunner

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  62. You are a GREAT big brother to her and I'm sure she feels very lucky to have you and your support. That's exactly what she needs right now from everyone, support. I am very proud of her and the selfless decision she has made to do what she needed to help her out of the situation she was in and to be the Mommy that Leah needs her to be. I only wish good things for your whole family and that at the end of all of this she is the person she has set out to become. I am a Mother of a daughter that is Ambers age and although she is in the Army and doing great things I could NOT imagine not being there and letting her know no matter what she has done I am there for her period.I do hope that her Mother is there and helping her to grow through this process. Much love to you and Amber and I cannot wait to see the responsible young Woman and Mother that she has fought so hard to become. Sincerely, Dawn

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  63. Hi Shawn! My name is Danica Ruberti and I currently work at TMZ. First of all, congratulations on your sister's release today! That is so exciting. I am so happy for your family. I just wanted to reach out to you because I know you were there to pick her up and bring her home. Would love to talk with you and see how she is doing. What are her upcoming plans? How excited is Leah to have her out? You can reach out to me through email at danicaruberti@gmail.com
    Hope to hear from you soon!

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